pastelandpretty asked: The whole fuckyeahbadgleefic thing has pushed me to the edge of leaving this fandom permanently. I suffer from depression and have since jr. high, when I was bullied every day.'m just tired of people thinking it's cool to treat other people badly as long as it is not them feeling that way. NO ONE should feel the way I have felt for the past few months in this fandom, and being made fun of for trying to write fanfiction and showing and expressing creativity is a form of bullying.
Oh, hun, please don’t let it push you away. I KNOW how you feel, I really do—I lurked in fandoms for years because of just that kind of stuff (and I also suffer from depression—bipolar disorder actually—and KNOW how these sort of things can practically live like some sort of sea scum in your mind, growing and growing). It doesn’t help that, with all the young people and the canon versus fanon wars, the Glee fandom can be crazier than most.
But I also know that I found my best friend in this fandom, the person I’d been trying to find for years, and I have made some of the greatest online friends I’ve ever known. Mostly by ignoring anything but what the people I care about say.
My friend ended up being bashed by a very prominent member of the Glee fandom at one time. This person lied about her and accused her of things she would never do… We discovered that the best way to deal with it was to simply tell the person that their accusations were wrong and then not speak to them anymore. Stick with the people you care about. And if you ever need a list of some of the greater people in this fandom, I got it for ya. And by great I don’t mean famous. I mean caring and fun.
And I agree with you totally. Fanfic is for fun, and it’s often cathartic. People get joy out of it and to knock that down is just cruel, and a little sad, too. Sad that these people actually think it’s okay and sad that they have nothing better to do. On the Net, more than anywhere else, I try my best to follow one rule that, when I break it, usually leads to shit:
If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
<3s to you.